Standing in Your Truth With Yanni
The podcast "Standing in Your Truth" will feature Yanni and a group of friends engaging in profound and intimate discussions on subjects such as mental health, finances, faith, and strategies for finding motivation during difficult periods. In this space, guests will be invited to share their life journeys, including the challenges they've faced and the obstacles they've overcome. This podcast aims to provide a platform for individuals to share their stories, ensuring that everyone's experiences are acknowledged, valued, and celebrated.
Standing in Your Truth With Yanni
The Power of No Pasa Nada: Embracing God's Plan Through Life's Challenges
"No pasa nada" – a simple Spanish phrase that means "nothing is happening" or "it's going to be okay" serves as the powerful life motto for our guest, Nidia Soriano. This philosophy has carried her through life's most challenging moments, transforming what initially appeared as devastating setbacks into divine redirections.
Nidia opens up about the multifaceted approach she takes toward mental wellness – from tapping techniques and journaling to prayer and therapy. She and host Yanni share a profound moment of connection discussing how the combination of professional therapy and a strong relationship with God created transformative changes in their lives. "Between getting rebaptized and dedicating and getting a relationship with the Lord and therapy, those two things changed my life," Yanni reflects, with Nidia wholeheartedly agreeing.
The conversation takes a touching turn when Nidia reveals a parenting moment that stopped her in her tracks – her daughter coming home to ask, "Do you think I'm pretty?" Her response evolved into a beautiful morning ritual of affirmations where her daughter now confidently declares: "I am beautiful, I am strong, I'm confident." This practical application of self-love demonstrates how parents can proactively build their children's emotional resilience from an early age.
Perhaps most compelling is the discussion of the "ripple effect" our attitudes and actions have on those around us. Nidia articulates how our emotional state affects everyone we encounter throughout our day, creating either positive or negative chains of interaction. This perspective reinforces our responsibility to cultivate positivity not just for ourselves but as a gift to our communities.
The episode concludes with a powerful reminder about self-love rooted in spiritual identity: "You are a child of God." When we truly internalize this truth, it transforms how we view ourselves and others, creating waves of love and acceptance that extend far beyond our immediate circle.
Ready to discover how standing in your truth can transform your perspective on life's challenges? Listen now and join the conversation about faith, mental health, and finding the courage to love yourself first.
Standing In Your Truth Podcast with Yanni Thomas
Hello everyone, welcome to Standing In your Truth podcast with your host, yanni. On this podcast you'll hear Yanni, family and friends having open-ended discussions on anything from faith, finances, relationships and how to stay motivated during life's trying times. Make sure to follow on all social media platforms. The social media link is in the bio. Sit back and get ready to enjoy.
Speaker 2:Hello everyone, welcome to another episode of Standing your Truth Podcast. I am your host, yanni. How's everyone's day going? Mine has been a tad bit on the hectic side, but I'm just going to say it's blessed. The Lord has allowed me to be able to look out for family members and give advice to friends, so all is well. But this podcast episode is not about me, so we're going to move right along. I have my guest here and I'm going to allow her to introduce herself.
Speaker 3:Hello everyone. My name is Nydia Soriano. I am a fellow Odessan, born and raised Are you born and raised here.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm born and raised here I don't know girl, where's my gold star? I'm like okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 3:And I am a mother, I'm a non-profit enthusiast and I am a true believer of God and all the wonderful things.
Speaker 2:I like that. What did you say? Non-profit? What Enthusiast. I'm not doing that. What do you like to do?
Speaker 3:I like to volunteer is how I say that? Hey, some people get voluntold.
Speaker 2:That's me a lot of times when I poke my head and stuff, but anyway. So let's start with our house question and just begin to get to know you before we touch into um the life model. So what motivates you?
Speaker 3:what motivates me, my children. I have a son and a daughter, a 10 year old and nine year old and honestly, it's it's my motivation every single day. They are the most amazing little creatures and they are in that amazing stage where they ask you all the things and they follow directions at least mine do. We haven't hit the teenage years. I'm not looking forward to that. I hear it's awful, but for now they're still in that make-believe world where you can talk to them about dragons and the princesses and stuffed animals and you know, just just building a world around them that they get to be kids.
Speaker 3:That's my motivation that's sweet.
Speaker 2:I always wonder, like, when parents are raising like a boy and a girl, are there clear parenting like different, like different ways you have to do things versus how you do for your daughter versus your son? Is that like?
Speaker 3:I don't, I don't do, I'm more of a. You get the same thing, you eat the same thing you and all the wonderful things. But um, they're very understanding and we have conversations. We're very big on communication. They understand that you know, when you bring a toy over for one, that doesn't necessarily mean the other will get one, and vice versa, and so we have a very good understanding but that's real life, like that's real life kudos to you for teaching them that, because some kids don't understand it's
Speaker 3:not a real world yeah, yeah, they don't understand that until they're a teenager and then by then it's like uh-oh, maybe a little too late.
Speaker 2:Um, how do you protect your mental health?
Speaker 3:oh goodness, this is a wonderful question. I am all about mental health. Okay, girl, I do the work, I do the work. Uh, you name it, I do it. I do something I started recently. I started tapping, you know, like when you do the tapping and the um, like the self-affirmation, and I have an app and my best friend turned me, uh, onto it and it just kind of sets the mood in the morning after prayer, uh-huh. And so I do the tapping, I do the podcast, I do the journaling, I do okay you know, do my bible reading at night time, the prayers I, I'm there.
Speaker 3:I'm there with mental health. I know the importance of it and I hope that people discover it way more before I did look, I tell you all the time.
Speaker 2:I think if people just took I would say, at the least maybe a year of therapy, they don't realize how free they will be.
Speaker 3:We need to get shirts. I'm not saying something like you know, are you in therapy?
Speaker 2:You need to, because we all do I'm telling you between getting rebaptized and like dedicating and getting a relationship with the Lord and therapy. Those two things changed my life.
Speaker 3:Isn't that the truth? I feel that people tell me all the time, oh my gosh, you always seem so happy or you got it together like no, I do the work because, trust me, a couple of years ago you will see nothing of what you saw today. But you know, it takes the therapy to get you where you're at.
Speaker 2:for sure, yeah, but I mean we all have something either we're dealing with, have dealt with this baggage, there's issues, but I mean, if we don't put like you said, we don't put the work in and you know, I feel that a lot of people give up on therapy because they only try one route.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and they're only educated that there's only, you know, I don't know, counseling as opposed to. Is it called emr?
Speaker 2:I don't know the the buzzing oh yeah, there's just so many different routes to go.
Speaker 3:You can go you know faith-based Kelsey. There's so many different options so I advise people to not, if it hasn't worked for them, talk to somebody else and find a different route, but you definitely need to talk to somebody that's not directly in your box.
Speaker 2:I think also you brought up a good point. Um, I feel like people they try one therapist and they're like I'm never doing therapy because that one therapist either said the wrong thing or didn't help it or they didn't click, and I'm like okay, cool, don't do therapy with that person, go find someone else it's like a hairdresser.
Speaker 3:If you don't like your haircut with one person, guess what? There's a thousand more.
Speaker 2:Go try it with someone else you know, that's, that is the way I remember that one too, because that is a unique way of putting that. So what advice would you give your younger self?
Speaker 3:To be bold. To be bold, I don't. It does not matter what color you are, what family you came from.
Speaker 3:We all have insecurities when we're younger, whether we don't have the degree we're going to community college, whether we're missing, you know, we just come from a one home. Whatever the situation is, um, I just wish I would have been. I would be more bold walking into a room, more confident in my ideas. I just feel I would have, you know, achieved a lot more without waiting so long, if I had been just bold. So I was just, uh, advice to myself and I tell that to my children just to be bold, say what you mean, mean what you say, and you know, just walk with confidence, definitely walk with confidence.
Speaker 2:I think, um, I realized that about uh two years ago. Yes, just be bold and just to be you just be you. Yeah, just be you don't realize the importance of that for sure. Well, what is the one moment in your life that really shaped you or made a huge impact?
Speaker 3:I won't give specifics, but I was let go from a job position at one point. I was, you know, I was let go, I was fired, and it completely broke my heart and my spirit. But it taught me so many things, um for one. It taught me to have patience. It reminded me that god has a plan and you have to trust it, because had that event not happened, something greater wouldn't have taken place. If I would have stayed in that position, I would have have been stagnant and this wonderful breakthrough that I had almost a year later, an entire year later, would have not happened. So when the blessing came a year later, I understood why that had to happen, if that makes sense. So that was definitely a breakthrough and just a boost in confidence. But, more than anything, I've never strayed away from God, but it definitely restored it to another level that I didn't have prior to that. So that was definitely the moment in every aspect of life.
Speaker 2:It sounded like you probably went from like. I feel like when I was younger, before I got re-baptized, I was more caught up in the religion versus the relationship with Christ. And I feel like when you go through moments like that, especially my divorce and trying to come out of that depression, I realized I had to get into relationship with him and actually get to know him and begin to feel him.
Speaker 3:And you know, now, I'm that crazy. I feel you know people might think like, oh, are you talking on your AirPod? Are you talking on phone? I'm like no, I'm that crazy. I feel you know people might think like, oh, are you talking on your or your airpod, are you talking on phone?
Speaker 1:like no, I'm just talking to God just having a conversation. You're driving down the road, yes it beats the road rage.
Speaker 2:I'm assuming that's the money well, some people might need to be having that conversation because they're stuck on the road rage for sure. All right, what is your mindset, um, when you are told no, or door shuts?
Speaker 3:That happens to me often because I do work for a nonprofit, so my official title is Director of Fundraising and Community Engagement. The community engagement part is very fun. It's a lot of networking, it's what everybody sees across social media. Now, what people don't see a lot is the fundraising part. When you are asking for some type of support and it doesn't happen, I don't.
Speaker 3:I no longer see things as a no, I strongly see them as a almost like a homework thing. It's a project to me, a school project. If Yanni tells me no to donating, I don't know a microphone to my organization. I want to know why you said no. I'm not going to ask you directly, but I'm going to do my homework, homework on this, on the entire situation. And guess what? I'm going to come back next year and I'm going to make the same ask and it's going to be harder for you to tell me no, because you've told me no once and this time I come with details and I know your background and I know why you told me no and I already worked on it. So it's either it's not necessarily for me, it's not. Oh, I learned a lesson because I I'm doing my homework and I'm coming back for it yeah, that's I can see with you saying that, now I can see why you're successful.
Speaker 2:Thank you, like it's. It's the work that you put in it and the door being shut.
Speaker 3:I just don't believe in any door being shut there is. I'm not a big Kardashian fan, I'm just not. I think they're lovely, they're great, they're beautiful, but I don't have their poster up on a wall. Yeah, but you know, going through the nights of TikTok, I saw, I heard of TikTok. It was Kris Jenner.
Speaker 3:As we know, she's so insanely successful yeah but she said when you get a no, you're just asking the wrong person. Yeah, and and I I do believe that I don't, even if it's the owner like maybe we need to speak to the wife, maybe we need to speak to them two together, maybe it's just the wrong time and the place. I just don't take that as a door shut or a no. It's just not an option. For the most part, I'm not mad at that I mean doing your homework.
Speaker 2:Don't think I'm crazy. No, I mean. To me it makes sense because a lot of times before I use like when I've had to ask for something, and you go into it with, like, you know, the idea of like a cold call or just cold asking without doing your homework, you kind of miss the fact of like, like you said, maybe the wife is the one to ask. You know, the husband is not the one. Or you realize, oh, this person actually, you know, is really into sports.
Speaker 3:Maybe we should ask them for the footballs, not the other thing I had this conversation with someone that asked me to kind of come in and do a little console on their uh asking technique, um, and I said you know some people you already know are going to be a no. If you do your homework, so you, why waste your time? So if you're going to be asking for pta and you're at a catholic school, um, and you're going to be asking the community, then hit, hit the businesses that you know are cath, that you know have children in that area.
Speaker 3:The grandparents are in that school. So work on your list first before you start cold calling because, then you're wasting your time and their time too. You know what I mean, that's true. And that's a whole other conversation. Yeah, that is.
Speaker 2:Sally, you need to do a podcast on how to fundraise for businesses.
Speaker 1:I believe you will execute it quite well. Well, thank you.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying I'm like, I'm listening, I'm like, oh, that makes so much sense. Duh, why did we all think of this? But comes back to the idea of common, sense is not common, but anyway, okay, now that we're done with those, we get into the juicy part. I'm gonna give you a general.
Speaker 3:Oh, you're good what is your life motto? Does it have to be in english, or can it be in spanish? You?
Speaker 2:can? You can say it in spanish, and then, for those of us who have not worked on our um espanol, you have to break it down for us in english what is the one popular app for? Is it duolingo girl I've had duolingo and it don't work for me. I also have, it's me not, not duolingo. Um, I've also had a friend that was like I'll teach you like conversational spanish and I know like basics, like, like I said, like I just froze, like like taco, right, I'm like no, no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 2:I can like. If someone asks you where the bathroom is, I know like banyo's bathroom, I know like just very basic you can get by yes. Now, if they talk too fast, I'm out. So you have to slow the spanish down. And then, like, give me my brain a second to process. But I work at dps for a second and I had to learn like I didn't have to.
Speaker 2:I chose to learn, uh like, driver license spanish, so like, but I forgot all that it's been a minute, but I did learn it, like I knew how to ask people, like what I asked people like for the driver's license, I mean for their um address or something, I don't know, but I learned it. I had a friend who actually put it uh phonetically on the uh index card for me, so it wasn't spelled. That's a good friend, you know she is, that's still my friend. Shout out to eunice um, but it wasn't. Obviously it wasn't spelled correctly so someone looking at it they wouldn't wouldn't know. But if you say it then I was. Yeah, but I had some customers that were like really, really sweet, usually it was the older ladies though, that would come in. They would be like, oh, and they would tell her, like they would tell Eunice. We appreciate her for trying. Okay, because I would definitely jack up some words hey, it's the effort that goes.
Speaker 2:But yeah, for the a for effort yeah, but anyway, in my dream I would love to be a bilingual yes, so I am um.
Speaker 3:I I was put in esl, I think, third or fourth grade but, my mother is a spanish speaker.
Speaker 3:Um, she, she's the same. She can speak a little bit of english, but you know, as full conversation she's like, well, slow down a little bit, yeah, but definitely. Well, back to the question. My life model is no pasa nada and I think it. It comes from growing up and you fall and you know we don't mom like our moms used to. You know my son gets a little cut. I'm like, oh my God, baby, come here, I'm going to band it on and kiss and sing a song. Girl, we got cuts back in the day.
Speaker 1:I'm like you're fine.
Speaker 3:You're fine, get up and go. So it was like my mom would say no pasa nada. So if you translate it correctly, it means um kind of like chill, it's gonna be okay. So no pasa nada to me is, no matter how bad the situation is, um, granted, this is not with like health, with our kids, our family, because then you know that is something grand.
Speaker 3:But if it's something work-wise uh a rumor, uh tired being blown out, whatever it is it's like no pasa nada, like there's nothing that cannot be fixed, whether it's actual physical product item that you can't fix, or if it's in a in some type of relationship, whether that be a friendship, whether that be a co-worker, no pasa nada, because if you have that conversation with that person nine times out of ten, it's going to work out, it's going to be fixed.
Speaker 3:The problem is that people do not do confrontation well you know, and when I say that, then that turns into people do not communicate well, and when you don't communicate well, then things get turned around and it gets turned into bigger things, bigger stress, bigger problems. So, uh, my thing is no pasa nada. I address the situation, whatever it may be, as soon as I can, and you just roll with it and you keep going, but no pasa nada you said so many things all at one time.
Speaker 2:I'm like, nope, people, we definitely don't do confrontation well because a lot, of, a lot of times, we're, I think, for more than one reason for one, like you said, we don't do confrontation well because a lot, of, a lot of times, we're, I think, for more than one reason for one, like you said, we don't know how to communicate, um, and I think also either party in the confrontation, if we're not self-aware, we're either not, obviously not going to communicate. We're not even close to conflict and we're not even going to know, like, how we're actually feeling to be able to communicate it.
Speaker 3:There's just so many things which what you said when you said that there is so many things, there's truly so many things, but you know, I have I I recently opened my twitter back up because I was trying to open up the story about it's called x now it's not twitter my account is still active, apparently in some way or another, and my uh, what is it like? Your entry sentence is communication is key. I was like, oh my gosh, I knew it even then no.
Speaker 2:So yeah, half the adults don't, okay. So wait, I was getting ready to try to say your motto. Then I was like I will text it to you. Wait, I want to say it. Say it again no, no, okay. I'm gonna walk around the house. I bet you say that at any rush mexican restaurant or something. I want to say it. Say it again no, no, pasa nada, no pasa nada, oh, no pasa nada, okay, yeah.
Speaker 3:I'm going to walk around the house saying that I bet you say that at any Mexican restaurant or something and they're going to smile because they know exactly what it means.
Speaker 2:Like you're right, boo, Nothing's going on, I mean hey, so how has that affected your faith, or has it affected?
Speaker 3:your Um, well, I, I, you know there's just. I could go on forever. If we have the conversation on faith, because the way it ties in is because your faith and again, this is in my personal opinion your faith has to be so strong that you believe that nothing is happening because God is going to take care of it. And I have reached a beautiful point in my life that I've worked towards to believe that, to know, not believe to know that it's going to work out, because God has planned it that way for me, because if it is not for me, he's going to take it out of my life, because and I pray on that and I know and I no longer get hurt if a text message doesn't come back, if a plan doesn't go through, because it's just a part of God's plan.
Speaker 3:So si no pasa nada. And you know, if I plan for something bigger, whether it be my five-year goal, my two-year goal, my, my goal of something to happen next week, I know that God's going to take care of it in the best way. He knows how that's going to profit me and my family. That God's going to take care of it in the best way. He knows how that's going to profit me and my family, whether it's going to be a blessing in five years or. You know, when I was let go, I should have and, honestly, at the moment I didn't think that model, I didn't think no, pasa nada, because a lot of things were happening.
Speaker 3:You know I wasn't employed, I was like, what am I going to do? But I wish I would have thought that I'd been more strong in my faith during that time, because I would have been so much better with my stress levels. But I often think how do people rise from a difficult situation when they don't have their strong faith with God? How, I don't know, and that's a true answer. I do not know, because if one person, if myself, can just come out of the water and breathe for a second, it's only because I know God has me.
Speaker 3:So if I didn't have that, I can't tell you where I would be mentally. Worse than that, I can't tell you where my kids would be at mentally. First and foremost, I want to I've done the work, the mental work to be in a good place for my kids because, as you know, if the parents are happy, that trickles down to your children. When my children see me happy, they're happy and I have very, very happy kids. That is my biggest sense of accomplishment is when I see my kids smiling and being wild. And I've seen this in different things.
Speaker 3:I've heard it in different podcasts that if your kids are kind of acting up just around you, it's because you're their safe zone and my. And then when kids are goofy, you will not see. You will see some kids around their parents and they are afraid to knock over water. Um, I don't, I just don't parent that't parent that way. Accidents happen. Learn from it and let's keep going and that's reflected back, you know, and it's just. We have to understand that everything we do is a trickling effect. So how yanni is today on the podcast, if you're in a bad mood, guess what it might get me in a bad mood then I go back to the office and I'm in a bad mood and they go home and they're in a bad mood.
Speaker 3:And then those kids go back to school and they're in a bad mood. Then they're teachers. You know we do not understand how important our actions are sometimes or how our behavior, the way we react with each other, but but yeah, but it's when you're saying about the trickle effect.
Speaker 2:I think a lot of times, um, this is with my non-parental like I don't have any kids, this is just my. What I've seen um, parents don't kind of realize that you're sending your little one to school. So you know you're sending happy kids that are probably um, great friends, look out for you know their classmates and all that excellent, and like I think that's definitely sets the tone for the school and the classrooms that they're in. And, if I can be honest and just my opinion, um, but then there's parents are doing the opposite and they're not pointing to their kids and they're not teaching them that and there's going to school and being little terrors and probably giving the teacher you know some trouble.
Speaker 2:Or they're using, you know, school as a cry for attention because they're not getting it at home.
Speaker 3:So it's something that kind of. One of the few moments that made me super sad this last year was, uh, my daughter one day came home from school and she said you know, um, do you think I'm pretty? And it just stopped me dead in my tracks because, of course, you think your children, your sisters, your mother's the most beautiful people in the world. And you know, I got at her eye level and I'm like baby, ask me, tell me, what did you say she's like? Do you think I'm beautiful? And that started a whole conversation. So then the next couple of days, when I was doing her hair, I would say every morning, you have to tell yourself and again, this is just what I do. I'm not saying it works for everyone, but I know this is what my daughter needed at the moment.
Speaker 3:I said every day, when you wake up in the morning, whether you're at daddy's house or my house, I want you to look yourself in the mirror and say I am beautiful, I am strong, I'm confident. And she just thought it was the oddest thing, she was not rolling with it. So when I would do her hair, I would say I am beautiful. She would repeat it I am strong, you know, I'm confident. And now if you see her say that in the morning, you're like girl chill, girl chill. But I mean she's all over it. But you have to have those one-on-one conversations with your kiddos and build up their self-esteem. You know that's important.
Speaker 2:I have a what am I part of? Big brothers, big sisters, so I have a little oh okay, and that's one of the things that I told her. Well, I told her mainly um, you don't beg for friends, because at this stage where she was, I think, um, I felt like she was like pretty much begging for friends, like she would do stuff and I'm like that's not what you usually do, or she would get in trouble. We all been there at some point in our lives and you wish you would have.
Speaker 3:I mean, hopefully people figure it out sooner rather than later I didn't figure it out till later. Some adults still haven't figured it out yes, absolutely, and so no, that's wonderful, that, yeah, I'm just like this is.
Speaker 2:And then I went, maybe about a month ago, on an outing with her and her mom. We were out somewhere, um, and her mom started something similar and I said, hey, that's kind of what I told her like. And she was like, yeah, that's. I said I'm glad that she didn't know I was telling her that and I didn't know that she was telling her that. So she's getting it on both ends. So it's kind of cool to know that, um, her mom and I are somewhat in sync as well. I'm sure the child does not quite love that, but, um, I don't get it later. Yeah, I just think. Just think it's important.
Speaker 2:I don't know, I literally made a post this morning that I just believe that one of my callings is to empower and uplift the people that are around me. So rather it be a five second conversation with you or a stranger, if I can find a way, whether it be a smile, a thank you, a doing something generous to hopefully uplift you and remind you that you know God created only one of you. That is your superpower. Um, he loves you. You're seen, you're heard, you're needed, you're wanted, you're valued. Just, I think every single person, um, walking the earth needs to be reminded of that.
Speaker 3:Yes, whether little person has a given talent.
Speaker 2:Yeah, use it yeah, but the problem I think, think, with that statement is I wish people would take more time with themselves to really learn what their talent is and realize that they do have a talent. I mean, it took me a long time to figure out my list but you did, I'm here 34 years later, but I'm here check her out.
Speaker 2:Half of that came from we give so much, those of us that have, like servants, hearts. We want to give, give, give, give, give, which is great, but there has to be a boundary to it, because if I'm giving and my cup is empty because I'm not making sure that you know I'm performing at my you know level and making that time with God and personal growth and all that, then I can't really help you get to your best because I'm not at my best.
Speaker 3:Yes, yes, and that I mean we can have conversations all day, but and that goes into relationships as well- you know, a lot of people. You end up being in relationships again at one point or another. We're all there where you end up in a relationship where we're giving more than you're receiving.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, no, where you end up in a relationship where we're giving more than you're receiving, so yeah, no, I'm with you on that one. And that can be boyfriend, girlfriend relationships, or a friendship, or even a family. That type relationship, it's literally all of them, and I think we also don't point that out, that it's like it.
Speaker 3:That falls in every category of a type of relationship and that's why we need therapy, because your therapist will call you out real quick one thing that's not the nerve they be on is I'm like um sis.
Speaker 3:So funny story is my sister is doing her internship um with and you know, in psychology, and so our conversations have changed to where, you know, I'm like girl, I need you to put sister hat on, not therapist, I just need you to listen, not judge. And she's like well, the, the sister judges, okay. I said okay, whatever, switch the hats.
Speaker 2:I don't want you telling me how to take care of it is hilarious, but I mean, I feel like those of us who have that, that mind.
Speaker 2:It's always there and I like have to catch myself because I I think I said it on here before, but so technically I'm a certified life coach, okay, so I find myself giving little tips and nippets and I'm like, wait, they didn't ask me for that. And you know the average person is like, okay, they'll go about their way. But I'm like Yanni, chill, chill, chill. Not everyone wants your advice, advice, and if they do, depending upon they can pay for it. So I'm just saying, absolutely, you know, that shows you how that works. Well. Um, is there anything else about your life model that we left off? Any final things before we get to the last couple of questions?
Speaker 2:um, no, no, just easy peasy easy piece, and I'll definitely say that he'll be like what? And I'm like, mind your business. So what do you stand for?
Speaker 3:what do I stand for? Yes, I stand for like. I stand for justice. I stand for all the good things, just good vibes, good people, a good community, the simplicity of it. Sometimes we make things harder than they used to be, so I just stand for just being around good people and just doing good, being good to yourself, being good to others. It doesn't take a lot, it just doesn't. You know, that's as simple as it is it doesn't people?
Speaker 2:I don't know why people make it seem like it's so hard to encourage and uplift and be kind and I'm like it's actually really easy. I feel like it takes the days I'm having a bad day and it's just rough. I feel like that takes more energy out of me than the days where I'm chilling and opening doors or volunteering somewhere. Those things are light and easy.
Speaker 3:Yeah, just love, be loved, you know, just find the goodness. Find the goodness and let go of what doesn't serve you.
Speaker 2:Ooh, that's a bar.
Speaker 3:Just let go of what doesn't serve you, whether that be honestly, whether it be it's easier said than done. But you know some people are so unhappy. I hear people all the time say you know they just sound so frustrated leaving work. Now, don't get me wrong. I have those days because I'm a little bit overwhelmed to have a big project coming up. But you have to love what you do, you some people. You know your job is your second home you have to love your job.
Speaker 3:Keep going till you find that place that welcomes you.
Speaker 2:But I'm sorry, that's not funny. I I laugh because my that really came out loud. Oh, it's not funny, I laugh. I mean, let me explain, why I laugh so do tell man I I meant the job I met. I've been there for four months. Okay, now I've been in odessa for about five years, like right before COVID and I probably this is probably like my sixth job.
Speaker 3:Okay, so you took that literally. You felt like you bounced as soon as you weren't feeling it.
Speaker 2:That's why I left off because I'm like, ooh, Because my family's like you better get somewhere to sit down.
Speaker 2:Like you're getting older, which I mean makes sense. But each situation like I, can break down like dps great job, a lot of stability. I wanted to be in the community I have a heart to serve. Dps is not the job for that. You just get cussed out every day, unfortunately in english and spanish. Make sure that point is there, because I was smiling in one dude's face and he was clearly cussing me out. I had no idea.
Speaker 3:I'm gonna have to text all my fiascos. I have eight of them no I signed my mom's the eighth one, but there's seven of them. Okay, ladies, just a reminder. Be nice, when you go to dps.
Speaker 2:Some of us will be trying, um, but they probably are nice. I'm telling you it's the young ones that were mean to me. But anyway, um that I had a job, uh, 2-1-1. Me and supervisors did not get along. We just different points of views, different type of management styles. I was there for six months We've had that and I was like I can't do it.
Speaker 2:Actually, I mean we only have four jobs oh, I'm forgetting one before DPS Anyways. And then I had the chamber, which was that job was a lot of fun, opened different doors, doors, got to see different things, um but I just wanted more responsibility because that was just an admin one.
Speaker 3:Oh yes, so I mean that's pretty much the reason why I left that job.
Speaker 2:I imagine, yeah, connections there yeah but it's just, I just I just wanted to be challenged a little bit more. So that's where I'm at, okay, but I'm big on, like I just it's not fitting for me to be here, like, especially when I feel like it starts to affect, um, my mental health. Oh, absolutely, um, if I'm dreading coming to work and don't actually no, this four months, I don't think I really dreaded going to work yet, but so it's because you're still right.
Speaker 3:There has been jobs that I I worked at a medical facility for a bit and there, there, I can remember exactly where I was sitting in front of the mirror where I wanted to cry because I just didn't want to go to work, um, and now there's days that I don't want to go to work, but it's only because I don't want to get out of bed that's not because I hate my job. It's like I really want to sleep for another 30 minutes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then let me in yeah, it's just a different vibe.
Speaker 2:So we're not telling you anyone, by the way, to go quit your jobs, but I mean, if a shoe fits, you just know that we this is, you know, a little help with that. But, anyway, when he said that I just had the holler Because I was like yeah, you should put that out, are we okay?
Speaker 2:I'm not I mean I'm cbr certified. That doesn't mean I should be the person to do it. Look, I'm a very um, transparent, uh, vulnerable, uh person I'm. People say open book, but I mean I'm not a book that everyone can read at the same time.
Speaker 3:I'm gonna have to, I'm gonna have to steal that from you.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying what I know, I saw, saw, I spent a lot of time on Instagram but like on, like motivational stuff, and it was one. It was like it's not that you don't want your enemy to eat, you don't want your enemy to eat at your table, and when I heard that I was like yes, that's exactly how I feel.
Speaker 2:Go do you over there and I'm going to do me over here and I applaud you from right here. Yeah, but you just don't need to be, yeah, over there though. Um, okay, so, last thing, you kind of feel like hit on it earlier and you may go back to that being the answer, but can you leave our listeners with a little motivation?
Speaker 3:inspire us my motivation, my words of motivation would be as cliche as it sounds, but I do this. I mean, I tell myself this the same um to love yourself.
Speaker 3:And again, it's easier said than done and you have to put in the work and you have to believe it. But I promise you, if you love yourself, the world will follow, because when you love yourself, you see yourself in a certain light and you will have others around you see you in that light and when they don't, you will catch it so quick that you will walk away from it.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:And yeah.
Speaker 2:That's so true.
Speaker 3:Again circling back in your right right. It took me longer to do that. I've always there's a difference. I've always been confident, work-wise, but to say I have truly just believe I am. You know it in um just a confident manner just came across, you know, after my divorce, to be honest with you because the divorce breaks you just like anything else.
Speaker 3:Any other breakup whether being fired, a let go from a team, whatever it may be losing, being kicked out of a friend group, whatever it is it kills your spirit. You have really have to put that work to getting back to um, just loving yourself, and loving yourself in a way that you know is is worthy. And you have to if you're a believer and if you're not no judgment, but when you think about it, you are a child of God. You are a child of God and when you think of it that way, it will change your entire perspective on how you love yourself. Because if you tell me that woman over there named Yanni, that's a child of God. There's no way I can disrespect you. You're a child of God. I there's no way I can disrespect you. You're a child of God and there's no way I'm going to disrespect myself or allow somebody to disrespect me. And when I, you look at yourself as being as a child of God and everybody else around you being that person, then you're going to uplift them in a way that you would uplift yourself, or your family, your sisters, your kids. Um, so, yes, definitely, love yourself, do the work. Where don't you love yourself? Why are we? Why are we having that issue? Why do you think that way?
Speaker 3:And I say go to therapy. But therapy looks different on everyone. When people hear therapy, they think, oh God, I got to make an appointment, I don't have time. No, sometimes therapy means talking to your leaders in your church group. It means attending one woman's retreat. It means going to serve out in the community. Going to serve out in the community um, sometimes you need to see someone, um, someone going through a moment. You know, if you go to a shelter and help there, you will walk out of there knowing exactly what your blessings are when you didn't see them before.
Speaker 3:So there's a lot of ways to learn to love yourself, to see your blessings, and when you start doing many steps to that, whatever it may be, find your favorite podcast, start to journal. We, when you get a little bit older, people tell you to journal and that you're gonna be sure like what am I gonna write about? But we get older, you start writing about it. You get to put your emotions on paper and see what it is that you have to work on in order over anything. When you love yourself. Your people around you will see it and you will see them start to love themselves, and that's what you want. You want everybody around you to just glow as much as you do the ripple effect the ripple effect?
Speaker 3:yes, no monster, I'm very strong on that yeah, I mean it's, it's a real thing.
Speaker 3:That's literally how it goes like it's, it's real when my kids come home, um, you know, every now and then before now, they're a little bit past it. They're, you know, fifth and fourth, fourth and fourth and third grade. But you know they would say oh, you know, nydia was mean to me at school and we'd have the conversation. Well, did you say hi to Nydia before she was rude? Were you nice to her beforehand and you got to understand, baby, sometimes at home they don't have a very happy place like you do. So if you didn't have a happy place, would you be happy at school? They would say, no, okay, well, sometimes that's what that happens. But I, I promise you, if you're nice to them and they go home, maybe they could take a little bit happiness back home and fix it. So now I don't have to tell them that. They just do it naturally. But it is definitely the rippling effect. It sounds like a podcast named the rippling effect I mean that could be yours.
Speaker 2:just kidding, I'm just saying yeah, I mean, okay, that was honestly some great encouragement. I think I needed to, you know, be reminded of that myself, to love myself and remember, you know, there's more than, like you said, more than one way to show love to yourself, but to make sure that's part of my list of priorities to do so. Thank you for that. Thank you for coming on and dropping your life motto greatly appreciated. Thank you for having me no problem at all, no problem.
Speaker 2:Well, before we leave, I just want to remind everyone that you are loved, you are seen, you are heard, you are needed, you are wanted, you are valued. Um, like we stated earlier, uh, god has a plan for your life. Just ask that you just spend some time with him to figure out what that plan is. And I say figure out, I feel like you still don't figure out, but if you talk to him, he'll help guide you through it, because I feel like I figured it. Sometimes I'm like, oh, that, and then I'm like, well, maybe not actually this. I think he's actually going another way.
Speaker 2:So I mean, we're all winging it yeah so just, I think, just make a priority to just be in his presence. Um, it's definitely going to change and impact your life that I can stay, I can say and stand on for sure, um, but that's it for us. So peace out.
Speaker 1:Have a good one thank you for listening to another episode of Standing in your Truth with Yanni. And if no one told you today, you are loved, you are beautiful, you are needed and you matter. Be sure to follow on Facebook at Standing in your Truth Podcast with Yanni. Also on Instagram Talks with Yanni. Also on Instagram Talks with Yanni.
